I want to say there is value in this article. Although it is just one perspective. While these things can be true the other side can also be true. There are good fathers, who care and love their children, in reality family court doesn’t do a good job navigating the complexities of the issues and situation that are highly emotional.
If you are involved in a situation like this try and take a step back. Set the baggage of the previous relationship down and find a way to move forward. Think of your children and show compassion. You are moving into a new phase of your and your children’s lives.
Your goal shouldn’t be to hurt the other party it should be to make sure all parties come out in a better place through the process.
Good article. I can relate to it quite well. What I have not seen, however, is the 2nd type of man mentioned, the one who feels REMORSE and opts for *Reflection and Change* ... not in Family Court at least. That Unicorn must live elsewhere or they sometimes call the 'The Dr. John Delony Show' crying after the long suffering wife and mother leaves. Those that show up in Family Court do not belong in this category. They show up with only ONE agenda on their mind and that agenda does NOT include making amends, seeking forgiveness or giving their Children the Peace they finally deserve.
And yet the courts understand none of this. Judges are so unqualified for the job they perform, it is astonishing. Judges are complicit in the continued abuse or women and of instituting gender discrimination and abuse.
I feel seen. I stay because he tricked me financially, and if I leave then I will leave with almost nothing. My children don’t deserve a mother who’s spread so thin trying to survive that she can’t give them the attention and love they need. So I stay to make him support me while I care for and educate my children. Eight more years and I can leave.
I want to say there is value in this article. Although it is just one perspective. While these things can be true the other side can also be true. There are good fathers, who care and love their children, in reality family court doesn’t do a good job navigating the complexities of the issues and situation that are highly emotional.
If you are involved in a situation like this try and take a step back. Set the baggage of the previous relationship down and find a way to move forward. Think of your children and show compassion. You are moving into a new phase of your and your children’s lives.
Your goal shouldn’t be to hurt the other party it should be to make sure all parties come out in a better place through the process.
Great comment 🙏🏻
Good article. I can relate to it quite well. What I have not seen, however, is the 2nd type of man mentioned, the one who feels REMORSE and opts for *Reflection and Change* ... not in Family Court at least. That Unicorn must live elsewhere or they sometimes call the 'The Dr. John Delony Show' crying after the long suffering wife and mother leaves. Those that show up in Family Court do not belong in this category. They show up with only ONE agenda on their mind and that agenda does NOT include making amends, seeking forgiveness or giving their Children the Peace they finally deserve.
And yet the courts understand none of this. Judges are so unqualified for the job they perform, it is astonishing. Judges are complicit in the continued abuse or women and of instituting gender discrimination and abuse.
I feel seen. I stay because he tricked me financially, and if I leave then I will leave with almost nothing. My children don’t deserve a mother who’s spread so thin trying to survive that she can’t give them the attention and love they need. So I stay to make him support me while I care for and educate my children. Eight more years and I can leave.